For many people, no matter how successful they are, self-confidence can be a challenge. Some people may act very confident, but deep inside, they may be lacking the self-confidence they need to be truly happy with their lives. There are many ways to increase your self-confidence to make yourself happier. Think about it, you only have this one life to live, so being as happy inside as you can possibly be is important. If you are wishing you had more self-confidence to be happier with your life, here are some ways to become that way.
Tips To Build Your Confidence
Read, Read, and Read Some More
Being an advocate for yourself is very important. If you know you are lacking confidence, and you want to find ways to gain a true sense of self-worth, you can! Understand that being self-confident is more significant in attributing to your happiness than healthy relationships. In order to become more self-confident, one strategy you can incorporate into your life is to read. There are many books out there that are all about developing a sense of self-worth, and self-help books can be a significant piece of the happiness puzzle. There is also a variety of online sources that can help you feel better and acknowledge the wonderful person you are.
Talk to Someone
There is a multitude of resources for those who suffer with a lack of self-confidence. For one, you can talk with a trusted friend or family member and lean on them for support. Many caring friends and family may be more than happy to help you with your self-image and self-worth.
If you are unsure about talking with someone that you know, you may look into the possibility of talking to a counselor about your feelings. A counselor is confidential and can very much give you ways to accept yourself and give you a more positive outlook on your capabilities in your personal, as well as professional life. Having a life coach can also help.
Keep Close Friends
A nice, tight circle of friends can give you a sense of security. Even one trusted friend can make your day by just lending a listening ear. More than likely, they feel that you make their day when you do the same for them. Sharing fun times together by getting out of the house, unwinding together at home, going on double dates with your significant others, or just going for a relaxing walk can help you with your self-confidence. True friends motivate and cheer you along as you come closer to reaching your goals. They also make you feel good about your appearance by complementing you, and just laughing with you to keep your spirits up!
Being aware of your mental chatter can help you become more proactive when you are trying to become more self-confident. Identifying when that voice in your mind is negative will alert you to stop that voice, and replace it with a positive voice. This may be difficult at first, and it does take practice. One thing you can do is keep positive affirmations and quotations with you all the time. You can put them on your phone screen, in your purse, or anywhere where you have easy access to them. When you begin hearing negative mental chatter, simply say (out loud), “Stop!” Then, read your positive affirmations to yourself. Repeat them if you need to!
Take Care of Yourself
Did you know that people that suffer from depression and anxiety have difficulty with self-grooming? If you are lacking confidence, you may do the same. It may be exhausting to just take a shower and brush your teeth. If you have low self-confidence, be sure to make time for yourself in terms of your physical appearance. Make a scheduled time each evening or morning to pamper yourself. Take your time getting ready, give yourself a facial, or just take a hot bath. Focus on you for a little while, and think about your characteristics that can help you be the successful and good person you want to be.
Set Life Goals
When you sit down and really think about where you want to be personally, financially, academically, or professionally, it allows you to set short term and long term goals for you own life. Doing this, either alone or with the help of someone you trust, can show you that your goals are significant to you and most definitely attainable. Begin with setting a few short term goals for you to reach, and when you achieve them, reward yourself with something you enjoy, or just with a big smile!
A positive self-view is the one of the things you need to have in order to be truly and undeniably happy with your life. The Berkeley Well-Being Survey concluded that “positive self-views was the most related to happiness“. While others can help, it is ultimately you who needs to alter your views and your mindset. Remember that there is no other “you” on the planet; you are indeed a special gift with a lot to give to yourself and to others. Remind yourself often of your positive traits, and give yourself a pat on the back for being uniquely you!
Here’s a great presentation about how to improve your confidence skills.